![]() ![]() ![]() While the men are being warned and equipped, we are quietly sitting on the sidelines, pretending to be unaffected and unconcerned as the battle rages on.Īs a church, it is imperative that we debunk the dangerous myth that sexual sin is an exclusively male problem. The problem is, we don’t talk about that in church. I’ve struggled with it, my friends have struggled with it, the women in my small group struggle with it…ladies, shall we let the boys in on our secret? Hold onto your hats, gentlemen: we have sex drives too. You know all too well the battle being fought in the hearts, minds and bedrooms of the women that fill the sanctuary every Sunday morning. If you’re a woman reading this, you just rolled your eyes. Unfortunately, a generation of tea cups grew up steeped in the subliminal message that sexual sin is something that only men struggle with-but never women. Delicate tea cups can’t handle those sorts of things, I suppose. They were talking about the dangerous allure of pornography, of just how tempting it was to have sex before marriage, the sinful nature of masturbation…these boys were being equipped to fight the battle like the men that God had created them to be.īut no one ever talked with my friends and I about any of that. Interestingly, no one ever pulled her aside to tell her to leave her pant suit in 1978.Īcross the hall, the boys were talking about sex. Now if we were really lucky, she might admonish us all to view ourselves like Jesus did-as delicate tea cups instead of paper Starbucks cups – but the bottom line always seemed to be what not to wear. Inevitably, a slightly awkward older woman in a pajama-esque pant suit would spend approximately forty-five minutes attempting to charm the uninterested as she prattled on about what was apparently the weightiest issue facing our walks with Christ: the way that we dressed.Ī group of impressionable young women in jeans would listen as she warned us not to dress like five-dollar hookers, because the animals masquerading as young men across the hall only wanted one thing. ![]() ![]() Now, if you want my unsolicited opinion, there are few things in life that are more distracting to a teenaged girl than sitting in a room wondering what all the boys are talking about across the hall.Įspecially when the girls were being told the same thing over and over and over again. I grew up in a youth group that just loved to separate the guys and the girls to talk about gender-specific issues. Guest Post by Ashley Peterson, Small Groups Associate at The Summit Church ![]()
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